‘Why I love having big thighs’
WHEN Aussie woman Shari Onley read an article entitled ‘10 Struggles Of Women With Big Thighs’, she immediately fired up.
WHEN Sydney woman Shari Onley read an article called 10 Struggles Of Women With Big Thighs, she immediately fired up.
Shari is super fit and loves her big thighs.
“I’m a woman with strong, thick thighs who loves every inch of them — whether they’re toned or soft, pale or tanned, covered or uncovered — whatever they look like, I love them,” she says.
Shari wants women to know you can love your thighs, no matter what size.
Here, she debunks some of the “struggles” women with big thighs supposedly face.
1. My pants NEVER fall down with big thighs.
Yes, they are often loose at the waist from going up a size to accommodate the thighs, but the thighs also prevent them from ever falling down. Perhaps you’re into baggy fireman pants. But yes, jean shopping absolutely sucks. Denim with stretch is a must, and generally a high waisted fit is superior, as they taper at the waist instead of cropping wider at the hip.
2. ‘Just the act of wearing shorts in general is terrifying’
It’s not terrifying. It’s fabulous wearing shorts with big thighs. The real problem here are the fashion brands which promote unrealistic body image ideals.
Magazines and advertorials generally feature models instead of looking at how most women are truly built and making clothing that accommodate them.
3. ‘A thigh gap was never in the cards for you ‘
We should NOT be promoting ‘the thigh gap’ as a benchmark for women to aim for. Nor am I suggesting we promote the ‘thigh chafe’ as a benchmark. A thigh gap can be more about the angle that your pelvis tilts than how big your thighs are. Sure, occasionally they chafe, you could always try body glide: it’s not some raunchy lubricant; it’s an anti-chafe product providing non-greasy protection against skin problems caused by rubbing.
4. I agree: running can literally be irritating.
I choose to take fewer steps at a higher intensity. Up a hill, for example. No exercise is terribly comfortable, but it still has to be done. Accept it or prevent it and get on with it.
5. ‘When a guy has smaller thighs than you (which is pretty standard) you immediately want to curl up in a ball’
This is laughable — and the reality is the complete opposite. He’s the one that wants to curl up in a ball. It’s absolutely a compliment and a credit to your determination and hard work. If any man has a problem with them, pop his weasly head (no jacked dude will have an issue with your thighs; he’ll be jealous) between your legs, gently squeeze his neck until his cheeks turn blue and his eyeballs start to rupture blood vessels … sorry, I got carried away there.
The point I’m trying to make is that women often care far more about their bodies than men do. Ultimately, confidence is more attractive than having a thigh gap.
Rock whatever thighs you have with a smile and leave the conversation with ‘smaller thigh boy’, knowing you’re a BAMF.
6. “Even if the rest of your body is tiny and fit, exposing your bare thighs to the world is your nightmare”
I could not disagree with this more! Rock your bikini bottoms and your curves in them. Perhaps pop on a sarong if you’re more comfortable. Hold your head higher and your shoulders back a little more. Women should be proud of our bodies. Instead of listing the things we don’t like, focus on the things we do and how wonderful it is to be a woman.
It is never about how much I weigh, it’s always about how I feel; I will never search for validation on a set of scales. Scales cannot remind me of how infectious my smile is, how purposeful my life is or how great my perseverance is when tested.
7. I’m an advocate for Turkish sausage legs over hot dogs legs
I’m the poster girl for the former, but BOTH versions are beautiful! Women experience an average of 13 negative thoughts about their body each day, while 97% of women admit to having at least one “I hate my body” moment each day. That is appalling. Telling you to “love your body” is about as helpful as placing an opened packet of Tim Tams in front of you after a break up. It’s time to muzzle your inner mean girl by combating those thoughts and topping up with a positive one. It’s proven that positive thoughts are way more powerful than negative, so keep an eye on that self esteem invoice making sure you go to sleep having paid the days bill for your thoughts!
8. ‘When will thighs have their moment?’
WHENEVER YOU ALLOW THEM! My thighs are currently having their moment. Let yours free.
This is an edited version of a post from Alpha Lux Fit.
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