Emily Ratajkowski’s husband’s alleged cheating says nothing about her
Model Emily Ratajkowski’s split from husband Sebastian Bear-McClard is rife with cheating rumours but the backstory is even worse.
OPINION
Model Emily Ratajkowski’s husband Sebastian Bear-McClard has allegedly cheated on her and people are shocked. Not about his alleged infidelity but the fact that he cheated because she is so attractive.
On Thursday, Ratajkowski liked a series of tweets about Bear McClard’s alleged cheating. One tweet read: “Can’t believe that little b*tch cheated on EmRata.”
Interestingly, people are outraged that Ratajkowski’s husband would dare cheat on her. Tweets included, “If Em Rata’s husband cheats on her, what hope do I have?” and, “If Em Rata can’t keep a man, then I’m done.”
Well if Em Rata can’t keep a man, there’s no hope for the rest of us! 😂
— SophieTheTrophy🆠#AbortionIsHealthcare (@trophysophie89) July 20, 2022
The internet is outraged. Not that a man would cheat on his wife, but that a man would cheat on his very hot wife. I get it, Ratajkowski is undisputedly and overwhelming beautiful, but the problem with this line of thinking is that it’s putting the blame back onto women when men cheat.
People are arguing that Ratajkowski didn’t deserve to be cheated on because she’s so hot. But on the flip side, what message does that send? If you aren’t super hot, then you deserve to be cheated on? Spoiler alert: you don’t.
For instance, I am not nearly as hot as Ratajkowski but I very much expect my boyfriend not to cheat on me. Your hotness shouldn’t be used as tool to measure if you deserve to be cheated on.
This idea that Ratajkowski’s hotness should have been a deterrent for cheating pushes forward the outdated notion that women can do things to ‘keep’ a man’s attention. Honestly, it doesn’t matter how spicy you keep your relationships or how gorgeous you look on Instagram: if a man is going to cheat on you, he will cheat on you.
The hard truth is that a man’s cheating has nothing to do with the woman he is with and has everything to do with him.
We must stop pretending that women need to ‘try’ and keep a man because clearly, Ratajkowski’s story is proof that it doesn’t matter how hot you are or how beautiful you are, if a man is going to cheat, he is going to cheat.
It doesn’t even matter if you’ve made it to the cover of Sports Illustrated and are one of the most followed and lusted after models on the planet, if a man is going to cheat there’s no amount of sexiness that will stop him.
Men cheat on very hot women all the time because it has nothing to do with the women. Let me say it louder: IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH THE MEN INVOLVED.
Ratajkowski’s husband allegedly cheating hasn’t exposed her shortcomings, it’s exposed his shortcomings. Plus, it serves as a great reminder that cheating has nothing to do with how someone looks or what someone does and has everything to do with the cheater.
Some relationships may never last the distance for various reasons, but infidelity is a betrayal by the individual and says absolutely nothing about the betrayed.
You can be beautiful, kind, smart and sexy, and a man can still stray and that’s solely on him.
Mary Madigan is a freelance writer.
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