7 best sex toys to spice up your bedroom in 2023, according to a sex therapist
A sex therapist has revealed the sex toys guaranteed to “enhance enjoyment” in the bedroom. WARNING: Adult content.
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As a Couples Therapist and Sexologist, my work is helping individuals and couples have harmonious relationships and increase their enjoyment in the bedroom. Sex toys can be a fun way to do that.
They increase playfulness (vital to keeping desire alive), build your confidence and enhance enjoyment. They also help you celebrate you if you’re enjoying single life.
There are some simple steps to follow if you’re looking to buy a sex toy for yourself or someone else and want to make sure it gets used more than once.
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1. Increase your connection
Great sex needs great connection, communication and making sex a priority. Toys can enhance intimacy, but you’ll get the most pleasure together when you have a solid foundation to begin with. Don’t forget to romance your partner before you get into the bedroom.
2. Have a conversation first
Open sexual communication allows you heightened pleasure and intimacy. If you’ve never had a conversation about toys, drop it in casually at first, or mention it’s a fantasy and notice how they respond.
3. Buy a toy that you both feel comfortable with
While it might spoil the surprise, shopping together is fun, intimate and a huge turn-on.
Want it to be a surprise? Check out the section on Best Sex Toys for Beginners in this article
If you’re still not sure whether your SO will love the gift of a toy, buy them something else to go with it. That way they won’t feel like they’ve missed out and it’s win-win.
Here’s my guide to the news.com.au Checkout (expert approved) Sex Toys for self-loving and partner play.
Note: It’s worth investing a little more to get a high-quality sex toy. They’ll last longer and are made from body-safe materials for safer, longer-lasting pleasure.
OUR TOP PICKS
BEST SEX TOYS FOR BEGINNERS
Clitoral Pebble Vibrator, Lovehoney, $89.95
A small, discreet clitoral vibrator perfect for anyone new to sex toys. It can be used solo or in partnered play. Introduce it in foreplay to add extra stimulation to a massage or use it during intercourse to help take you over the edge.
What reviewers say: “Very effective”, “small but powerful” and “great sensations”
Lelo Ora 3, on sale $194.25 (down from $259)
This ring shaped sex toy vibrates and also simulates oral sex for women. It has 12 settings so there is something for whatever mood you are in and waterproof so there is no need to keep it just for the bedroom. It is great for self-love or partner play.
What reviewers say: “This is a perfectly made toy” and “new favourite”
BEST SEX TOYS FOR COUPLES
We-Vibe Chorus, Lovehoney, $299.95
The We-Vibe is the classic couples sex toy – and for good reason. To take you both over the edge, you can’t go past this wearable device that stimulates her G-spot and clitoris, while you’re having intercourse.
What reviewers say: “Easy a must have for any collection” and “it’s beautiful … much classier than my previous toys”
BEST SEX TOYS FOR WOMEN
The Satisfyer Pro 2, Lovehoney, $79.95
The sex toy that everyone is talking about right now. This one is designed to mimic the feeling of oral sex. Use it alone, combine with lovemaking or use with another toy.
What reviewers say: “Mind blowing”, “no regrets” and “great value for money”
Offering dual action stimulation on the clitoris and G-spot, this is a perfect toy for self-love or giving your special lady pleasure.
What reviewers say: “Exceeds expectations” and “highly recommend”
BEST SEX TOYS FOR MEN
Lelo F1S V2, $276.75 (down from $369)
This vibrating sleeve offers ultimate manual pleasure and can be used solo or as part of couples play when it’s time to focus on him.
What reviewers say: “Hi-Tech fun”, “lots of options” and “it works for me”
Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager, on sale $239.20 (down from $299.95)
While not everyone’s cup of tea, if your man is open to the pleasures of the prostate this hands-free device can bring next-level pleasure.
What reviewers say: “Keeper for the long term”, “strong vibrations” and “very impressed by a lot of the features and abilities:
BEST LUBE AND CLEANING PRODUCTS FOR SEX TOYS
You’re investing in a toy, so you also want to take care of it and get the best out of it. Pair your gift with these helpful extras.
Lelo Flickering Touch Massage Candle, Lelo, $54.90
A candle that melts into a warm, luxurious massage oil, the Flickering Touch is perfect for creating a romantic vibe and getting things warmed up.
System JO Water-Based Lube, Lovehoney, $29.95
There’s no shame in using lubricant. A good, water-based lube can help you both get ultimate pleasure from your toys. The System JO H2O is safe to use with toys and in partnered sex.
Lovehoney Fresh Toy Cleanser, 250ml, Lovehoney, $24.95
Keep your toys clean, safe and hygienic by spritzig on the Love Honey Toy Cleaner before and after each use.
Isiah McKimmie is a leading relationship and intimacy expert and the author of news.com.au’s Relationship Rehab column. She has a master’s degree in relational psychotherapy, a master’s degree in science in medicine (sexual counselling / psychosexual therapy), a postgraduate diploma of sexology and a certificate from the prestigious Institute for the Advanced Studies of Human Sexuality.
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