Mother devastated her partner chose a baby name she hates

"I HATE the name Chad; we know a couple of Chads; they are not great people."

Baby names can be a real point of contention for expectant parents - and more often than not, their extended families. But what happens when you hate your baby's name? 

A new mum has taken to Reddit to get some truth off her chest: she hates her baby boy's name. Despite her mammoth labour, her partner handed over the birth certificate with a family name she hadn't officially approved of. 

The couple had been together for five years when they discovered they were expecting. 

"Once I began talking about family, he immediately bombarded me with names that he would name our BOY, I too had ideas which he quickly shut down (he had no preference for girls)," she explained. "He begin to list names that belonged to grandpa and great-grandpa, Oliver and Chad (Names are different just in case he comes across this). I HATE the name Chad, we know a couple of Chads, they are not great people. I also don’t love the name Oliver but I’d rather that than Chad."

She added, "Emmett is very sentimental when it comes to anything in his life that has to do with his family, I’m not that sentimental."

"He was adamant on the name Chad because it belonged to his dad’s grandpa, whom his dad has never met due to the war. I asked him to compromise and make Chad the middle name cause I'd rather Oliver. He say maybe, but with a 'no' tone."

Despite the burden of settling on a name, the couple decided not to find out the gender.

"The entire 8.5 months, I was anxious and wished it was a girl," she said. "Even though having a girl wasn't what I wanted, I felt more assured that I can be happy with her name. We didn't want to find out the gender because he wanted to be a surprised and I am not sure how I would feel if I let 'Chad' marinate my thoughts."

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It's a boy! 

After a gruelling 13-hour labour, the couple welcome, you guessed it, a baby boy! Emmett, her partner, went ahead and filled out the birth certificate.

"We waited till I was relaxed and situated before we signed his birth certificate. And when we did I saw his name 'Chad Beau Smith' I have no say in that name whatsoever. Emmett saw me bare-down and drugged up and gone through the hardest experience in my life and I have no say."

"I ended up fighting with Emmett for an hour or so and then just gave up: 'FINE YOU WIN'. He smirked as he handed his birth certificate in. I was just too tired to fight anymore, I felt like, I just need to focus on taking care of my baby."

One month later, she still hates it and can't even call her baby by his name.  

"I've been avoiding saying his name, I'd call him 'baby Beau,' 'Boo,' 'baby,'" she said.

"I can't bring myself to calling him Chad. I also didn't post anything on SM because I just hate the name. I also felt like I'm disconnecting from this relationship because after all that Emmett has watched me go through I felt that I don't matter."

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"I hate my sons name," mother shares her partner chose her son's name. Source: iStock

"Sorry, Chads"

She signed off, "Sorry to all the chads as well."

The comments section was less than impressed with Emmett. 

“Your boyfriend is a bully and he sucks,” one person wrote. “Names are a two yes one no situation.”

Also known as compromise! 

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"He should be an ex-boyfriend"

“He took advantage of you by doing this right after birth,” pointed out another. 

“If anything, you're underreacting. Your boyfriend took advantage of your weakened state and bullied you into getting what HE wanted - just like he did your entire pregnancy. He should be an EX-boyfriend for how he treated you up to this point. I wouldn't want my son to grow up thinking what your boyfriend did was okay. Nobody should treat their partner this way,” someone else said.

“The issue your boyfriend doesn’t appreciate is that now the name has become a thing of revulsion for you because it symbolizes a time when you were vulnerable, and he used it as an opportunity to steam roller over your wishes,” another wrote. “Change the name; consider changing your boyfriend if he isn’t open to therapy. You do not want your son growing up thinking it is okay to treat your partner like this.”

"Can we please acknowledge how sick and disgusting it is for a man to wait till a woman is drugged up and exhausted from giving birth and use that time to unilaterally name the baby that came out of her body? I can't even handle how absolutely revolting that behaviour is. If you left him over this, that would be absolutely reasonable," added another concerned responder. 

One commenter decided to stand up for her partner, "It is just a name. If you do not want to ruin your relationship, let him have that name. It is obviously a huge deal for him for family reasons, and for you, it is just “ I hate it” for no particular rationale behind it . Contrary to the mood in the answers, I consider your stance of quiet hatred stupid on a different point - there is no real motive for you to “ hate” the name.

While the mother has over 400 comments to trawl through, there is no word yet if baby Chad will remain, baby Chad. Maybe Charlie is a good alternative? 

Originally published as Mother devastated her partner chose a baby name she hates