‘I’ve tried gentle parenting and my daughter tantrums more’

“I don’t care what anyone says… it doesn’t work for these new generations,” the mum-of-four reveals in a viral video.

“We’re going to stay out here until you’re ready to be nice,” Angie tells her daughter.

The American mum-of-four is filming while her little girl screams and cries by the front door of their house.

Angie sits on the front porch, appearing calm.

The little girl demands her mum open the door, but Angie refuses until her daughter is “ready to be nice”.

That sets the girl off as she moves towards her mum and pushes her.

“Hands are not for hitting!” Angie says. “When you are ready to use your inside voice, you can talk to me.”

“I don’t care what y’all say,” she wrote in the caption before posting the footage to TikTok. “Gentle parenting does not work for these new generations. I tried.”

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What is gentle parenting?

Gentle parenting or collaborative parenting is a parenting style where kids aren’t punished or controlled into behaving a particular way.

Instead, parents use connection and communication to get kids to comply.

In the family, decision-making is democratic, and the core tenets of the technique are respect, boundaries, understanding and empathy.

In the video, which has been viewed over 10 million times in under a week, Angie demonstrates gentle parenting by remaining calm in the face of her daughter’s tantrum. But the more calm mum is, the more worked-up her daughter becomes.

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At one point, she grabs Angie’s harm and tries to scratch it, then slaps her on the back.

Followers agreed with Angie’s sentiment, with one person saying that for gentle parenting to work, gentle children were required.

“My kid is a gangster with a bad attitude; so is her mama!” one person said.

“I do a combination of both. Start with gentle parenting then resort to old school tactics if that’s not working,” said another.

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Followers were shocked at Angie's daughter's behaviour. Photo: TikTok

Others were shocked at how Angie’s daughter hit and scratched her mum.

“I literally gasped!” one person said. “What the heck?! She will do this to another child. No. No. No.”

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Others said that Angie was doing it wrong. Gentle parenting was about being gentle, but not about ignoring the child’s emotions.

“Don’t ignore her feelings by saying ‘be nice’,” one person said. “She needs to learn to regulate her emotions.”

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Originally published as ‘I’ve tried gentle parenting and my daughter tantrums more’