I won't let my husband sleep in on the weekend, but I have a good reason

"We have a 10-month-old and a schedule for who wakes up with the baby. He wanted to cheat on our agreement," the mum wrote in the viral post.

Eleanor Katelaris

2 min read

September 4, 2023 - 3:50PM

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A young mum has taken to a forum to ask whether or not she's in the wrong for refusing to let her husband sleep in on the weekends.

She began the post by explaining that she's a stay-at-home mum and they have a 10-month baby.

The OP then outlined an 'agreement' she and her husband have about their sleeping schedules, in particular, their weekend schedule.

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"I said no since that is not our agreement and that it's not my fault he didn't sleep in"

"Every Saturday he sleeps in and I take full care of the baby in the mornings," she said.

Then, every Sunday, he takes the baby and she sleeps in.

But this week, their well-oiled routine was messed up.

"This Saturday, the baby woke up around 7 am, I woke up, changed her, made her bottle and fed her," she explains.

"Shortly after feeding her, my husband shows up in the living room saying he can't sleep anymore."

She says to him that she understands, as she is often inadvertently woken when he gets up with the baby sometimes.

That night, her husband turned to her in bed and told her that since he woke up early that morning, he would be sleeping in the next day (Sunday).

"I said no since that is not our agreement and that it's not my fault he didn't sleep in."

He then said something you should never say to a SAHM - "But I work and you don't."

The mum pushed back on this unfair jab, saying, "You can't just throw that around when it was a joint decision."

The next morning, the dad stuck to the schedule and woke up with the baby, but it wasn't without some sulking.

"He told me he was really tired and that it wasn't nice that I made him get up and I should have let him sleep in instead."

"So AITA for not letting him sleep in?"

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"If he wants more sleep, he can nap or go to bed early"

"Sounds like you have two children," one top comment read on the post.

Another added: "Sunday was his turn. If he wants more sleep, he can nap or go to bed early."

And a third said: "It's a shared responsibility and he needs to stick to his commitments."

"NTA. This is the exact same arrangement I had with my husband when ours was a baby. He works outside of the home. You work 24/7. You get up with the baby 6 days a week and it is not your fault he didn’t stay in bed. You deserve one morning a week too," added someone else.

Then this person agreed, concluding, "Sometimes you can't try and go back to bed, but you can choose to stay in bed, relax, watch TV or read a book. Or sometimes one of us will say, 'Hey, I'm wide awake! How about I get up with the baby and you sleep in and we can switch tomorrow?'"