'I don't want to invite my sister to our wedding because of her plus-one'

“My sister was furious and said that if her plus-one isn’t welcome, she isn’t coming either."

Hannah* has been busily planning her wedding for the past few months, but now a potential invite conflict has her stumped.

The 26-year-old and her fiance are going through the potential guest list, but have found a sticking point with her own sister.

Why? They don’t like her sister’s probable plus-one: her Bernese Mountain Dog.

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“My sister is obsessed with her dog, a large and somewhat poorly trained Bernese Mountain Dog,” Hannah said.

“She takes it everywhere with her, including family gatherings, despite the fact that many of us have asked her not to.”

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Hannah* and her fiance are planning their perfect wedding, but her sister is getting in the way. Picture: iStock

"I know she will bring it anyway if I just ask her not to"

Hannah said the dog had previously been a ‘demon’ at the aforementioned family gatherings, and had caused a “lot of problems”.

“At my cousin’s wedding, her dog knocked over an elderly guest and tore up some of the decorations,” she said.

“At our family’s holiday dinner last year, it ate part of the turkey off the table when no one was looking.

“My sister always brushes it off, saying her dog is just energetic and friendly.”

As you may expect, when Hannah sent out the invitation explicitly banning her sister’s dog, she didn’t take it too well.

“I know she will bring it anyway if I just ask her not to , so I told her that she can’t bring the dog, and that if she does, she won’t be allowed in,” Hannah said.

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“My sister was furious and said that if her dog isn’t welcome, she isn’t coming either.

“She accused me of not caring about her happiness and making her choose between her family and her dog.”

Somewhat surprisingly though, it seems as if Hannah’s family is taking her sister’s side.

“My parents think I should just let her bring the dog to keep the peace, but my fiance and I are firm on this,” she said.

“We want our wedding to be a calm and beautiful day without any chaos.

“I’ve tried to compromise by suggesting she find a pet sitter for the day, but she refused and insists that her dog is part of the family.”

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"She doesn't care about you, her actual family"

Hannah decided to take to Reddit for a second opinion, and people were united in their opinions.

“‘Keep the peace’ simply means ‘your wishes mean nothing and your sister’s wishes mean everything’,” one person wrote.

“Your parents would prefer a pretence of a happy family and a ruined wedding than any sort of perceived ‘bad blood’.

“Ignore the bullying. Get security and make sure your sister doesn’t show up at the wedding or reception.

“Tell your parents that this is not your sister’s day and if they can’t see that, they can stay home too.”

“Does she really think her happiness should be your priority on your wedding day?” another person asked.

“Your parents are ridiculous for trying to let her get her way again: why are her feelings more important than yours?”

“She doesn’t care about you, her family,” a third person said.

“Her dog can stay at a friend’s house or with a sitter for one day. It’s not like it’s a service dog.

“If she cares more about not being separated from the dog for a few hours for her sister’s wedding, then you know where you stand.

One person asked a question I’m sure most people were also curious about.

“Are these weddings outdoors?” they asked.

“I can’t imagine any venue would allow a dog to come in unless it was a highly trained animal for a disabled guest.”

*Names have been changed

Originally published as 'I don't want to invite my sister to our wedding because of her plus-one'