I banned my husband's parents from coming over on Christmas morning

"He says I'm selfish, but they had their turn with their own kids, and this is now about us and ours." 

Would it really be Christmas without a little in-law drama?  

A woman's husband has labelled her ‘selfish’ for not wanting to include his parents on Christmas morning. 

She believes the tradition of watching the kids open gifts from Santa’s shouldn’t include the in-laws.

Despite wanting a “sacred” and “intimate” family moment with just the four of them, her husband thinks she’s being "inconsiderate".   

“He is calling me selfish and inconsiderate of his parents’ feelings because it would mean the world to them to watch the grandkids open presents from Santa,” she said.  

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"They had their turn"

In a Reddit post she explains that before having kids they were more flexible with their time during the holidays, but having children has changed things.    

“I want to be home for Christmas morning, and then spend the rest of the day with my family or his family depending on year,” she wrote. 

“Our kids are still young, (two and one) but it is still such a special moment for me and I want it to be sacred and intimate amongst the four of us. We only get so many years of little kids on Christmas morning and I want to soak up every single moment.” 

It’s not the first year they’ve disagreed about holiday plans.  

“We had the same argument last year. I told my husband that they had their turn with their own kids, and this is now about us and our children,” she explained.  

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"It's registering as being inconsiderate"

Comments were divided with both sympathy and criticism.  

“It’s not inconsiderate for YOUR OWN CHILDREN to open their presents at home,” one person wrote.  

“In-laws can’t control everything,” said another.  

“HE is being selfish by robbing YOU of this time with your immediate family,” added a third.

Despite having the support of the internet, the woman's family aren’t as generous.  She says her mother-in-law has made things tense.  

“His mum has made comments in the past how Santa would always travel for them wherever they went (being passive aggressive towards my feelings on it),” she explained.  

One commenter suggested they open presents at home in the morning before catching up with extended family.  

"That’s exactly what I had in mind. But for some reason it’s registering as being inconsiderate,” she replied.  

The mum insists she’s not trying to exclude his parents as such.

“I would be totally fine if grandparents wanted to come here for Xmas, but they already made plans to host at their house with everyone so we will be traveling to them regardless and staying with them for several days,” she said.  

“I still want to see and celebrate with his family, but only after we have Christmas, just the four of us on that morning.”  

Originally published as I banned my husband's parents from coming over on Christmas morning