#7. They approach fights differently
A lot of people say fights are healthy and that you should be fighting with your partner. But Garland says it is more about how you resolve conflict.
“There are always going to be moments of disagreement because you have different upbringings, you've got different beliefs and you see things differently, but it's the way that you approach the resolution that's really important,” she tells Body+Soul.
Garland explains that couples who come at it from a defensive perspective, or attack the other person while intentionally trying to hurt them, often have a lot of deeper relationship issues.
“Happy couples come to it from a mutual understanding of, ‘I want to understand your opinion and your perspective’, and are usually done pretty soon,” she says.
“There's no resentment held, there's no silent treatment, and it's kind of a priority to resolve it and understand each other's perspectives very quickly after the fight.