This doctor will help you have better sex

BEFORE Kim watches you pleasure yourself, you’ll have a casual chat first. It’s also up to you whether you keep your clothes on.

“Everyone has an interesting twist to their story,” Kim Nguyen says, explaining sexual habits are inherited from multiple sources like adult movies and teenage gossip.

BEFORE Kim Nguyen watches you pleasure yourself, you’ll have a casual chat first. It’s also up to you whether you keep your clothes on, or choose to go nude.

“It’s a space for people to openly explore their eroticism,” explains Nguyen, GP registrar and Sexological Bodywork expert.

This safe zone is in Nguyen’s private practice, where she’s teaching sex education to adults. “We live in a hyper sexualised but sexually repressed society at the same time. My role is to create an open and supportive space for clients to be curious and learn about their body and arousal,” she says.

While you’d be forgiven for thinking the sexual issues Nguyen sees are trauma induced, they’re actually common and relatable — from trouble orgasming to couples in long-term relationships “yearning for something more.” Read: stale and only able to get off one way.

The unusual therapy she uses to treat “any gender, sexual preference, culture or age” is relatively new, Nguyen admits. “Instead of using words, Sexological Bodywork is experiential. It uses the body and body mode. Clients learn about touch, body mapping, orgasm and masturbation.”

And yep, she confirms, “you do watch people masturbating,” offering guidance on how to get out of habitual behaviour, and into the body.

As per the Certificate in Sexological Bodywork 2016 Australasian Training course, Sexological Bodyworkers are “somatic sex educators, supporting individuals, couples and groups to learn to direct their own erotic development, learn about their bodies, sex and sexuality, or work through sexual issues or concerns.”

The teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities, including breath work, touch, Taoist Bodywork, mapping, scar tissue remediation, and Orgasmic Yoga coaching.

“Everyone has an interesting twist to their story,” Nguyen says, explaining sexual habits are inherited from multiple sources like adult movies and teenage gossip.

“What I find most interesting are men who are unable to orgasm or ejaculate with a sexual partner, as they’ve become so used to porn and fantasy to reach their peak. What happens is their mind is wired to become aroused by really specific triggers. Sexological Bodywork uses techniques to reset the nervous system to experience a state of arousal free from fantasy.”

So, how does a registered GP get into this sort of specialty? “What drew me to Sexological Bodywork was my own experience. As a teenager myself, when I started being sexual, the priority was always pleasuring men. I grew up to believe that was ‘good sex’, but as my sexual journey progressed I realised how wrong and deep I was in that way of thinking.”

Nguyen laughs that a perk of the job is being able to fix that. Sexual satisfaction sure beats free tea and coffee.

Dr Kim Nguyen is a Medical Practitioner and Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Visit www.sexualmedicine.com.au or contact Kim on [e-mail].

This article originally appeared on body + soul