'I kicked my sister out for breaking my one wedding rule'

“She refused to leave until I threatened to call security.”

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The sisterly relationship is not always an easy one, and for this bride with a long history of a difficult relationship, even she did not expect to be so disrespected on her wedding day.

Writing on the popular AITA Reddit forum, the 25-year-old newlywed shares how growing up, her younger adopted sister always got her own way due to her rough start in life.

“When I was nine my parents adopted my sister ‘Jen’ who was seven at the time,” the woman says.

“Jen was thin and fearful due to being neglected. We did everything to make her feel loved. We bought her lots of toys. Everything Jen wanted, she got.

"I was so happy to have a sister, and I understood why my parents gave her special treatment.”

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"She threw a tantrum"

As the years went by however, the special treatment didn’t stop. 

“If she didn’t get what she wanted, she threw a tantrum. I still felt loved and cared for by my parents, but I was always second to Jen.

“As I got older, I did anything I could to leave the house. I got my first job when I was 12. I took my driver’s test the DAY I turned 16 and bought a car the day after. I went to college on the other side of the country.”

She explains how now that she is independent and making good money, she decided with her fiance ‘Kip’ to throw a big and joyful wedding. 

“We thought it would be fun to have a colour scheme. My favorite colour is yellow, and his is blue, so my guests would wear yellow (or touches of yellow on neutral), his would wear blue, and mutual friends would wear green. I picked out a dress with green embroidered details, and he picked a boutonniere with green flowers.

“When Jen found out about this, she was mad. I didn’t know this, but she hates yellow as it ‘washes her out.’ She told me under no circumstances would she wear yellow. I shrugged and said that was fine–I would just kick her out if she did not wear yellow.”

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The months passed and there was no further discussion about the rule until on the big day Jen showed up - wearing a purple dress.

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"I told her to leave immediately"

“I told her to leave immediately. The colour scheme was perfect and she ruined it. Jen refused to leave until I threatened to call security.

“The rest of the wedding went smoothly, but afterwards my parents were furious with me for kicking Jen out. I told them that I warned her she would be kicked out if she didn’t follow the colour scheme, but they said they all thought it was a joke. 

“They said it was cruel of me to kick my sister out over something so trivial. I told them this was MY wedding that I threw without their support, so I can kick out whoever I want to.”

The woman said her fiance Kip defended her decision and even told her parents they should be ashamed of how they treated me. Since the wedding day she has had many family and friends offer mixed opinions.

“Some say they wouldn’t have even invited Jen if they were me, while others think I should have let it slide. 

“I invited Jen because she is family, and I honestly thought she was more mature than this.”

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"Everyone else managed to do it"

The post has been viewed thousands of times and plenty of readers have opinions on the whole sad situation.

One person began: “To me it's also very telling that Jen is apparently the ONLY guest who had trouble with the colour scheme. If everyone else managed to do it then it wasn't that f*****g difficult.”

Another agreed saying, “Make no mistake about it, that is exactly why your sister showed up in purple, pure spite. If the colour yellow was really the problem, she could have asked to wear blue. Instead, she showed up in purple with the express intention of upstaging the bride and groom and causing a scene, knowing all the time that your parents would back her up.

“Your parents have been shitty to you ever since your sister showed up. Time to call them and your sister out for their obnoxious behavior and blatant favouritism.”

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"All about the social media aesthetic"

Some however had an issue with the whole colour scheme concept to start with.

“I am becoming the equivalent of a boomer because I'm nostalgic for the days when the people in attendance mattered more than the color they were wearing (in which case, idk why OP invited her sister to begin with!). But it's all about the social media aesthetic!”

Another felt similarly about the strict rules and wondered if anyone else would have been kicked out.

“I also think it's weird to care that much about everyone being on theme. This is your wedding day. Do you really want to have to worry about policing outfits and calling security over it?

"Makes it seem like the aesthetics matter more than the actual getting married to the love of your life part.”

Let's hope the sisters can move past it towards a healthier relationship.

Originally published as 'I kicked my sister out for breaking my one wedding rule'