I do most of Xmas alone as my husband is an introvert

"I'm fed up of being the lone adult representative for our family at festive events," the annoyed woman shares. Do you have this problem too?

It's nice to be invited to lots of events at Christmas, but it can also feel a bit much.

This can be especially for introverts, or people who don't like socialising a lot, at the best of times.

But with lots of family obligations this time of the year, if one person repeatedly disengages, it can leave others carrying the family flag.

That's what one wife has been feeling, going to events without her introvert husband recently - and she's sick of it.

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"I resent being married to an introvert at Xmas"

The wife has vented on a mums' site, writing that she resents "being married to an introvert at Xmas."

She adds, "I know I'm being unreasonable, but at this time of year it really sucks.

"He’s ducked out of visiting any of my siblings, and I know on Xmas day (I’m hosting my parents), he’ll skulk off upstairs for most of it and make minimal conversation at the table.

"I get that all the socialising at this time of year is tough for introverts, but I’m fed up of being the lone adult representative for our family unit at all things festive.

"It sucks. It does my nut in most of the year round but it’s brought into sharp focus at Xmas."

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"Made more effort early on"

When comments in the group asked whether this has always been an issue for the couple, the woman explained that it's become worse.

"I didn’t realise quite the extent. He definitely made more of an effort early on and it’s like he just can’t be bothered to try anymore.

"To muddy the waters as well for the first 10 years he had a medical condition that causes fatigue, so I put a lot of his anti-social behaviour down to that. For the last three years he’s been in remission and has got a lot more energy, so it turns out it wasn’t the illness at all."

After that explanation, many comments shared empathy and support for the woman.

"So it seems he just can’t be arsed really, I don’t think that’s to do with being an introvert. Skulking off upstairs is just plain rude unless there’s some backstory about him and your family not getting along.

"Introverts find socialising tiring and need some downtime after to recharge, being rude doesn’t come into it," wrote one.

Added another, "Being an introvert is about people-time tiring you out, not about sloping off and ignoring people (although I'll admit the odd excessive time spent 'looking for something in the bedroom as a quick breather mid-evening)!"

Then there was this blunt response: "Your husband is just plain rude. Get rid and find a decent man who will actually share your life with you."

Originally published as I do most of Xmas alone as my husband is an introvert