I ordered a gluten-free cake for my girl so I can have a slice: now I'm 'selfish'

"My partner says gluten-free things taste bad, but don't I deserve to celebrate this especially special birthday?"

Parents put a lot of thought and effort (and money) into giving their kids fantastic birthday parties - especially for their first birthday.

So it makes sense if the hard-working mums, who are usually the organisers, have a little something special for themselves, like a slice of the cake.

Well, at least that's what one mum thought she deserved - but writing about her experience online, she revealed that her partner didn't agree.

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"I want it to be gluten free as I have celiac disease"

The mums writes:

"DD (daughter) turns one at the start of December. I've arranged for a local baker to make a cake for her. I asked for it to be gluten free as I have celiac disease.

"DP (partner) said this was selfish. His reasoning being that gluten free cakes aren't as nice as normal cakes. He can't seem to come up with any other reason.

"I just wanted to eat some of DDs first birthday cake."

The mum wanted to know if she was being reasonable in her desire, and hundreds of parents filled the comments section with their advice.

Some agreed with the partner, with one writing, "Don't inflict the gluten free cake on everyone 😂."

Another added, "I can see both sides of this. Maybe two cakes is the only solution!"

But many others thought the partner was the one being selfish.

"So the options are that one person finds the cake less nice than it could be or that one person can't eat it at all? Yet your 'DP' thinks you're the one being selfish?" one asked.

"My husband is GF. We always order GF. I would never leave out a family member in a family celebration. His intolerance is part of who he is. If I was nut free I would expect a birthday celebration to be free of nuts," another advised.

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There were also many blunt comments.

"So your DP thinks you are selfish for ordering a cake everyone can eat albeit a compromised cake, whilst he thinks he is reasonable expecting a cake that he wants but that the mother of the child cannot eat.

"Does he understand what selfish means?"

Other supportive comments included, "He's a dick. Get the gluten free cake. You deserve it," and "My gluten free cake is delish. Your husband is a selfish tw@t."

Posters also wanted to share their cake go-tos.

"Marks and Spencer gluten free chocolate cakes are just as nice. So it's not true in every case and I am sure a baker will do a great job," said one for example.

And then another oddly contributed: "Yeah, I'm vegan but I don't expect any cakes to be vegan apart from my own birthday cake. Didn't even get to try my wedding cake. Vegan cake isn't great, gluten free cake isn't great. I know obviously vegan isn't the same as gluten free but I think it's the same principle."

Finally, we loved this suggestion: "He can buy himself a cake. And eat the whole thing."

Originally published as I ordered a gluten-free cake for my girl so I can have a slice: now I'm 'selfish'