I love being the mum of a boy. There, I’ve said it. I’m just a little bit obsessed with how affectionate and loving he is.  Every night since he was born, I whisper as I kiss him goodnight ‘you’re my kind, gentle, respectful little boy, and I love you’. Look he’s 5 now and he looks at me like I’m mad but still says ‘give me a hug mumma’. After going through a messy marriage breakdown, that’s exactly what I want for him as he grows up – to be kind, gentle and respectful. But how do we make that happen? Step in the fabulous Jess Sanders – author of a new book called ‘be Your Own Man’ – with some invaluable advice.