A kid can't come to my son's party because he's 'committed to his team'

 "I get that I chose a bad time, but why do we pressure our kids to do activities over celebrating a friend, anyway?"

When mum Bree learned that one guest invited to her son's party can't make it because he's "committed to his footy team," she didn't understand.

The NSW mum's confusion led her to make a TikTok, asking viewers why a celebration of a friend should be less important than playing sports.

But the reaction from them was so intense, she was forced to delete the clip from her account. Nevertheless, she's confident she has a valid point.

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"Why can't we let kids be kids? Why do we pressure them?"

Speaking to Kidspot, Bree, who has planned her seven-year-old's party at  playcentre, at 11:30am on a Saturday, says she was disappointed on her child's behalf.

"I sent out invitations, and some can come, one is deciding if they're away, and one outright won't come because he's got a footy game on.

"It's a local footy match for under 9s. Would he really rather be at footy for his teammates, or is his mum the one saying he's committed to his team?"

Bree added that children of such a young age shouldn't be pressured to keep 'commitments' - especially if it means they miss out on the fun with classmates.

"Where's kids being kids? Your kid can't go and have a bit of fun? The team won't need to forfeit - the coach should be able to make adjustments."

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"Get your kids to be better friends"

Bree thinks there's a life lesson in prioritising friendships, too.

"Get your kids to be better friends. That's important - to know when to make an effort."

Bree acknowledges that some families just aren't into socialising on the weekends, or have multiple kids with multiple interests.

"People were complaining in the comments that there's a lot of expense, time and planning involved in sports teams, and that Saturday mornings are especially hard.

"But then, we've also spent money on the birthday to celebrate with my son's friends... doesn't that matter, too?"

Bree also has a newborn, and concedes that she was too sleep-deprived to think of all the details.

"I'm not in my sports team era," she explains.

"I could change the time, and I should have been more thoughtful. But I still wonder about the kids who are always missing out on the fun."

Originally published as A kid can't come to my son's party because he's 'committed to his team'