Insane response after 30yo calls out Aussie dating culture
Maddy went viral online for calling out Aussie dating but the response from some men has been wild.
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Maddy Carty was recently told that maybe she wasn’t “attractive enough” to expect men to put in effort with her on dates.
The comment came after the 30-year-old amassed over 100,000 views online for calling out the low-effort dating culture in Australia.
Ms Carty didn’t say anything bad about men. Instead, she just said that she wished Australian men had asked her out on dates, instead of just asking for her Snapchat account.
Talking about dating isn’t unfamiliar territory for the 30-year-old who hosts the Mads World podcast about dating, sexuality and feminism.
So when she returned to Australia after seven years of living in London and was shocked by the lacklustre dating culture back home, she called it out online.
“Dating as a 30-year-old in Australia is so hard,” she said.
“Not only is the dating pool so small, because there are fewer people, I guess, but the amount of effort Australian guys put in is insane – it is just nothing.”
The comment section was crammed with fed-up Aussie women who wholeheartedly agreed with Ms Carty’s assertions.
It should be acknowledged that Ms Carty didn’t hate on men in her TikTok. Actually, she wants to spend more time with men.
She just wants to spend time with men who plan dates, suggest venues, and put effort into the conversation.
The TikTok post became a space for women to share how they were sick of the “let’s hang out” culture, but then the unwanted messages from men came rolling in.
“The responses on my video ranged from people calling me a 2/10 and saying I had expired because I was 30, to making assumptions about my income and the amount of people I’ve slept with,” she told news.com.au.
Some people even commented and accused Ms Carty of not putting enough effort into her dating life.
She said the assumptions were wild because there was nothing in that video from which people could “draw those conclusions”, but that didn’t stop them.
The response was generally eye-opening for Ms Carty, and it didn’t exactly disprove her assumptions that Australian dating culture is grim.
“The comments on my video suggest that these men feel that women only deserve basic standards in a relationship if they’re conventionally attractive,” she said.
Ms Carty said she does her best to have a sense of humour about it. She is also amazed that some men will comment cruel things with public accounts that link back to their other social media pages like Facebook and Instagram.
She mostly finds it “embarrassing” for the men commenting, but that doesn’t make it okay.
“I feel sorry for the men commenting horrible things on my videos, it’s quite embarrassing for them,” she said.
“They clearly haven’t had any luck with women or experienced a healthy relationship before, and this is because they don’t respect women.”
Ms Carty said that she thinks men who comment horrible things to women online, particularly making fun of their looks, have a general “lack of respect for women”.
“Their lack of respect for women has impacted the way women respond to them, and as a result, made them hate women,” she said.
Originally published as Insane response after 30yo calls out Aussie dating culture
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