I won't move my wedding date because of my pregnant Maid of Honour sister

"She's having none of it and is demanding we reschedule it again until next summer."

A bride has taken to Reddit to rant about her pregnant sister, who is also her Maid of Honour, after she asked if she could move her wedding date. 

"My sister Ella and I have always been close growing up, despite her being three years older," she explained to the forum. "We've always been best friends, I was her MOH and she's mine.

"Ella is currently five months pregnant. She had a rough first trimester, throwing up three-four times a day, always tired. Some days, she couldn't get out of bed, literally. She had also found out early when she was a month into it because her symptoms were so bad."

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"I know she's hormonal, but it's not an excuse for her to act like a bitch"

The OP and her fiancé had initially set the date for July. However, seeing how sick she was, they began getting worried, and so decided to reschedule the wedding until after she had passed her first trimester (per her doctor, she was supposed to get better.)

"I need to add that no one asked this of us, but I felt it was needed," the bride noted. "And thank God she did get better. She's eating normally, going out, and coming back to herself."

"Seeing this, my fiancé and I talked about our wedding again. I had always wanted a summer wedding on the beach, but I didn't want to wait a full year, and seeing winter wedding pictures was slowly growing on me. And so, we decided on a December wedding," she continued.

"The invitations were finalised last week with the date and were all sent a couple of days ago (yes, it's early but we all have big families/a big group of friends and colleagues, so we need the RSVPS early). Yesterday, I got an angry phone call from my sister asking how can I do something like this to her."

The woman said she was "honestly confused" and told her sister as much, but she went on to rant about how inconsiderate she was to not wait until her nephew was born, that her being MOH and eight months pregnant is going to be hard, and that she has already "been through hell."

She calmly explained to her sister that while yes she is the MOH, she doesn't expect her to go "above and beyond."

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"My best friend and her had already planned a girls' night back when my wedding was in July, so we're just going with that again (everything is already bought and my best friend will set it up)," she shared.

"I told her that my man and I have also re-booked everything ourselves (flowers, venue and catering are going to be done by our friends who have their own shops and companies) and that I'll pay to have her dress resized to accommodate her bump. I'm even taking care of hair and makeup for all my wedding party, a sort of pamper session where we'll all get ready together and take pictures."

All the sister is pretty much required to do is... show up. But she's having none of it and is demanding she reschedule it again until next summer.

The bride put her foot down and gave her a flat out no, but her parents are urging her to reconsider. 

"I know she's emotional and hormonal, but I told them that's not an excuse for her to act like a bitch," the OP said. 

"Any opinions/advice are much appreciated."

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"Your wedding, your call"

People immediately rushed to the comments section in support of the bride. 

"Being emotional is not an excuse to bully others," said one person.

"NTA. Your wedding, your call. Your sister isn’t in a position to make demands about major wedding decisions, especially the logistical nightmare of rescheduling it," a second agreed.

Then a third said the OP had already "shown a lot of flexibility and support for [your] sister by rescheduling your wedding once to accommodate her early pregnancy struggles."

"You’re making additional efforts to ensure she feels comfortable [and] supported at your wedding, including resizing her dress and arranging a pampering session."

They urged her to consider her own plans and preferences and "don't move the new date."

Originally published as I won't move my wedding date because of my pregnant Maid of Honour sister