‘Sh*tty thing’: Gross reason 27yo’s text didn’t send

A young Aussie woman has revealed the “sh*tty thing” that happened after a horror Hinge date with a bloke she never even laid eyes on.

A 27-year-old woman has shared details about a horror Hinge date, where a bloke blocked her on the app before she’d even laid eyes on him in person.

Zoe said she met a man on the popular dating app, and the pair spoke for a week before organising a dinner date. She thought they were getting along well and she even let him reconfirm the date details to reaffirm his interest in her.

The guy she was meeting up with was more familiar with their date spot and her to park at the McDonald’s across the road due to the limited parking.

“Everything felt relatively normal up until right before I was leaving, I had this gut feeling something was off and I even said to my friend I feel like I’m going to be ghosted,” she told news.com.au.

“She was like, ‘you’re nervous it’s fine just go and have fun’.”

Zoe arrived at the Macca’s carpark, and she texted him to say she was there. Her date sent a text back saying: “I’m here, if you like walk across”. He said he ended up parking at the back of the venue as there were not spots at Macca’s, which Zoe said wasn’t true.

She got to the venue and after 10 minutes the guy still wasn’t there. She called her friend to see what she should do.

Zoe, 27, discovered she was blocked by a man she was supposed to meeting for a date. Picture: Supplied

“I messaged him saying, ‘Am I at the wrong spot?’ And my messages didn’t deliver. I just knew I’d be blocked,” she said.

The 27-year-old looked on Hinge and realised she’d also been unmatched there. She hasn’t heard from the bloke since, leaving Zoe stumped. Her instant reaction was that the man judged her based on her appearance.

“The other part of me is like, was he just not game enough to say I’m not interested,” she wondered.

“It’s hard because I actually still think he isn’t a bad person and he’s probably lovely but he just did a sh*tty thing. That’s actually how I want to think of him because he was so nice.”

Zoe said perhaps it was naive of her to keep believing that, but the alternative — that she was judged based on her looks — was a “pretty gross feeling”.

“I know dating apps are designed to judge based off appearance, but also I feel like it’s common sense that there’s more to a person than their appearance,” she said.

“We got along well and had good conversation so I don’t know why someone would just judge another person based on their appearance.

“I think it says more about him if he did take a glance at me in real life and think, nope she’s not it,” she added.

She initially thought the man had seen her, as he claimed to be parked behind the venue, and decided to leave. Picture: Supplied

Zoe shared her experience on TikTok, and her videos have since gone viral. She said she almost felt as though some people condoned the man’s behaviour, flipping the script and making it out as though she was the problem. She was told she was clingy, or that she should post photos of her body from every angle to combat this.

“This is the issue with society and the reason this keeps happening to hundreds of people on these dating apps,” she said.

“The more we normalise this behaviour from both men and women the dating scene will never change.”

Zoe said she had no idea the video would get so much attention, but despite the negative comments, what stood out to her was how many women saying they had dealt with the same thing.

“It’s so sad that this is way too common. I felt so bad for all the girls saying this has happened to them and they have no faith in finding someone,” she said.

“I had so many beautiful comments from women saying how beautiful I was and that I shouldn’t be upset by it all. It was really nice to have people comment saying it’s not me, that I’m beautiful. It was a real girl power moment and I love that, we don’t see enough of it.”

She said the Australian dating scene relies so much on social media and dating apps to communicate, which simply allows people to hide and not be honest about what they want.

Originally published as ‘Sh*tty thing’: Gross reason 27yo’s text didn’t send