My partner gave me 'the ick' after he aggressively tried to discipline my kid

"I haven't felt attraction towards him since," the mum confesses. Has your partner ever suddenly turned you off? 

Going out to a restaurant with kids will always end with some mess, a tantrum and some tears. But what happens when an adult is the one that throws a tantrum and causes a scene? 

One mum online shared her awkward family dinner with her new partner and her family... which had an unexpected ending.

"My three-year-old was calmly eating his food and standing up on his seat and waving at the other toddler behind him," she starts her post. 

"He wasn't making a mess, a fuss or annoying the family behind us."

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He kept telling my son to sit down

She also shared that her son wasn't annoying the other family he was engaging with, and given that it was a family-friendly restaurant, there were many toddlers "waving back and forth."

It was then her partner had enough and got involved. 

"He kept going, 'Sit down, sit down,' and then put his hand across the table to sit him down, spilling my drink all over my son's plate, my coat, and the table," she writes. 

"Then he was like "aww f**k sake" like it was our fault? I just pretended I didn't even see it happen and kept eating."

The partner is not the toddler's dad, and the mum implied that made a difference to how she handled things. She ended her post by confessing that she hadn't "felt attraction towards him" since the dinner and couldn't understand why he would react in that way. 

"It didn't seem like an out-of-control kid, or I had no control over him and just let him run wild. He was eating, standing up, waving," she concluded.

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"You thought it was ok"

The post was flooded with comments supporting the mum, although many wondered why she didn't address the issue after her partner's tantrum. 

"Whether the three-year-old should have been standing up is irrelevant, in my opinion. What's important is that you, as the parent, thought it was OK, and your boyfriend of a year decided to overrule you and then acted like a d*ck," one wrote bluntly. 

"Why would you not advocate for your three-year-old child and say something to your partner?! Are you ordinarily this passive when someone is out of order in front of and/or towards your child?!" another added. 

"Surely no one would let a boyfriend of a year parent with them, that’s madness!" a third said.

While others didn't agree with how her partner handled the situation, they wanted to point out that a toddler on a chair is also not acceptable.

Someone expressed, "I wouldn't have been letting him stand up on the seating and mess around. He's three, old enough to sit down and eat properly."

And this person warned: "I’m embarrassed for you, thinking it’s OK for your child to keep standing up on the chair while eating. You need to give your child some boundaries. This relationship is doomed; you both have different expectations of children’s behaviour, so this will keep happening." 

A parent shared this final note: "Something about this made me feel very uneasy, this man you have known for one year, you don't really know anything about him. I wish women were more cautious about bringing men into their kid's lives. Get rid of him; he is a giant ick."

The OP replied with an update, agreeing, "I don't think there's a coming back from me feeling that way, so I will end the relationship." 

Originally published as My partner gave me 'the ick' after he aggressively tried to discipline my kid