My husband wants custody of his love child; I wish he didn't

"I've threatened divorce."

A woman is thinking about getting a divorce after her husband revealed his intention to pursue custody of his love child.

Taking the Reddit, she explained that she's been married to her husband for nine years.

However, in 2001, she found out he was being sued for child support.

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"I have zero interest in this kid"

"Turns out my husband had an affair shortly after we were married. It nearly ended our marriage, but we went to counseling together and I agreed to stay in the marriage," she explained.

But she had a few conditions for her husband, if she were to stay in a relationship with him.

Firstly, he needed to get a second job so that the child support payments didn't affect their household cash flow.

Secondly, at no point in time would she consider having a relationship with this child.

"If he wanted to pursue one with them, fine," she added. "But I have absolutely zero interest in this kid."

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While he understood her position, he has been "getting to know his kid over the past couple years", "once or twice a month" with a "social worker present".

But he recently admitted to his wife that there was some "baby mama drama" going on and the child's mother is about to go to jail for eight months. 

"My husband told me that he needed to take custody while his affair partner is locked up, otherwise the kid would have to go to their grandparents who basically live on the opposite coast from us," she explained.

"Their kid doesn't want to have to change schools or be so far away from their friends, dad and mum (she will be doing her time fairly local to us)."

After hearing the news, she got up and left and when she returned, handed him a copy of their area's apartment guide. 

When he asked if she was serious, she said yes, but he argued she wasn't being fair "considering the extenuating circumstances".

"I told him I don't care about the circumstances," she concluded.

"His kid is not welcome in my home."

So, she wants to know - is she in the wrong here?

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"Move on with your life"

"In no way do I think it's your responsibility to raise this child. But it is his responsibility. And this poor kid didn't ask for any of it," someone commented on the post.

"The whole situation would be happier and healthier if y'all just split up," one user added.

And a third wrote: "I think you should divorce him and move on with your life," a third replied.

"Not your job to take care of the kid," a fourth echoed.

"She should do it the first time she found out about cheating, it would save her from so much drama that came after," another pointed out.

Originally published as My husband wants custody of his love child; I wish he didn't