'My husband is furious I didn't put his name on our child's birthday card'

"Why dads don't put any effort into their relationship with their children and then expect the mum to step up to pretend the father cares? He can get his own card," one commenter agreed with the mum. 

We all know the drill. 

We will buy our children birthday gifts, bake the cake and plan the party, then slap our partner's name on the card as if it was all from both of us. 

Well, for one mum, enough was enough. 

She took to a popular forum to ask if she was wrong for leaving off her husband's name on her daughter's birthday card this year. 

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"He didn't get a card himself for her"

She explained, "It was my daughter's birthday and I wrote her the following on her birthday card: 'To my rainbow, Happy fourth birthday. I love you to the moon, stars, sun, rain and back again. You make me so happy. Love mummy'."

She then gave her daughter the card and her partner "was furious" she didn't write it from both of them.

The OP went on to explain that she had shown the card to him earlier that day and said, "Look how cute it is!"

He agreed that the card was nice but didn't say anything about signing it from him as well.

"I just wanted a card from me to her," she continued. 

"He knew there was a card, didn't ask it to be from both of us and didn't get a card himself for her."

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"We need to stop making excuses for these lazy husbands"

The mum's post generated a lot of different opinions, with some agreeing with the mum, while others said she was being petty. 

"Why don't dads put any effort into their relationship with their children and then expect the mum to step up to pretend the father cares? He can get his own card. You're not the a**hole," the top comment reads.

Another person added: "He could’ve taken the initiative to spend five extra seconds writing his own name down to show that he cared. Or even better yet he could’ve bought her his own card that he thought she would like.

"I personally could always tell growing up that it was just my mum signing for stuff. And that my dad couldn’t be bothered to spend the extra five seconds writing his own name down to say that he loved me. We as a society need to stop making excuses for these lazy husbands not putting in the effort for their own kids."

On the other hand, this person argued that, "A four-year-old kid probably doesn’t have the reading comprehension to understand the card and who signed it. You are making a passive-aggressive point to your partner and using your kid as a pawn in your petty relationship drama."

"I've never heard of a child getting two cards, one from each parent. Seems strange to me," a different person concluded. 

Originally published as 'My husband is furious I didn't put his name on our child's birthday card'