My coworker made a creepy comment about my 'large' pregnancy breasts

"Not just to my face, but to our manager too." How would you feel about this discussion in the workplace?

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March 25, 2024 - 2:48PM

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"I recently found out I’m pregnant with my first baby and there’s two particular coworkers I do not want to know I’m pregnant yet..." a woman begins her post on an advice forum.

"Betty* was homeschooled/sheltered, so she tends to make things competitive," she continued.

"She rushed to get married because our old coworker was getting married around the same time (weird). Betty also said she wasn’t ready to have kids for a long while, not until they moved out of their apartment, etc... but once she heard my fiancé and I were trying for a baby, she got strangely invested, asking me tons of personal questions about how we’re trying and such..."

A few months later, "Boom, she’s pregnant."

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"I can't tell if she's actually that weird"

Betty then has her baby, and life goes on... but now the OP is 11 weeks pregnant, and Betty has crossed a line again.

"She asked my manager behind my back if I’m pregnant because I’m 'wearing baggy clothes and my boobs are huge'," the poster explains.

"The next day, she asks me if I’m pregnant because I have big boobs... caught off guard and feeling invaded, I said no, and she shouldn’t ask anybody that kind of question.

"I can’t tell if she’s actually that weird or if someone slipped up and told her... So, am I AITA for saying no? Or am I justified in protecting my privacy and waiting until I’m ready?"

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"When you are pregnant, people seem to lose their minds and all sense of normal boundaries"

Straight away, people reassured her she was in no way wrong here, and the coworker's behaviour was creepy AF.

"NTA - talking about your boobs is sexual harassment," someone suggested.

"You need to file a complaint with HR. Specifically state that she made a comment to my manager and then to me about the size of my breasts. I am incredibly uncomfortable and uneasy to be around her, nor do I feel safe," another advised.

"Your body, your privacy. What does she need to know?" someone else asked.

"She has no right to that information. Just also a word of warning that when you are pregnant, people seem to lose their minds and all sense of the normal boundaries (e.g. virtual strangers asking invasive questions, touching your stomach), so repeat boundary setting may be something you have to go through. All the best with your pregnancy," another forum user added.

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