I changed my adopted son's name so my miracle biological baby could use it

The dad said he did it to continue the name's 'legacy' that had "gone back five generations."

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A man has been slammed in an online parenting forum after he admitted to changing his adopted son's name after the birth of his biological 'miracle' baby. 

He believes that his firstborn 'blood' son should carry down the family name as it's 'gone back five generations.'

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"It's better to give the biological son the family name."

Taking to the thread, the man wrote: "Am I the a**hole for changing my adopted son's name back to his original birth name after my bio son was born? (pregnancy and birth were kind of a miracle)."

He explained: "My name is August V. My name goes back five generations now and it was always my plan to make my son August VI.

"My wife and I were horrified to find out I was essentially firing blanks and was told I would essentially never be able to father kids - heartbreaking.

"We started the adoption process right away looking in mostly foreign countries so it would go faster, and we were able to adopt a baby boy from Vietnam. His first name was Thien but my wife agreed to change his name to August VI. We also agreed we would let nature take its course because miracles can happen.

"Seven years later, a miracle did happen and my wife turned up unexpectedly pregnant. I decided with my wife's agreement that because we now have a bio son, it is better to give the firstborn biological son the family name."

The dad then clarified that even though their adopted son's official name was August VI, he preferred to be called Thien by almost everyone.

He also claimed that their seven-year-old "didn't understand or care" about the name change, as his friends already knew him by that name.

Nonetheless, they had to inform the school about the change, which resulted in the news spreading throughout their community.

"We're now essentially social pariahs and the subject of massive gossip - accusations of not loving Thien enough," he said.

"We've heard it all through closed mouth hushed tones. It's gotten so bad. Am I the a**hole?" he asked.

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"People like you really shouldn't adopt"

The dad's confession sparked significant backlash on the platform, with hundreds of comments criticising him.

Ultimately, he took his post down but the comments still remain. 

"You are the a**hole. People like you really shouldn't adopt," one user remarked.

Another chimed in, sarcastically asking, "Are you also looking at the return policy on your oldest son or did the fine print get ya on the adoption?"

"No way this is real. Either way, you're the a**hole," another quipped.

"You're the a**hole. You dragged your kid to a legal proceeding to make sure he knows his place will always be less than your bio son," another user analysed.

Then another said: "Oh well, I guess the commodity baby isn’t needed anymore now that you procreated."

"I can't believe any judge would approve the name change under those circumstances, even if there are parents vile enough to request such a thing. If true that poor kid is growing up feeling inferior to your bio child," commented someone else.

"Your new kid gets the family name because he’s your real kid. You made it very clear that you see him as your adopted son not worthy of the family name because he’s not your family," a different member replied.

"Great way to show your adopted child that biology trumps all. Shame on you and your wife," one man concluded. 

This article was originally published in May 2023 and was updated in September. 

Originally published as I changed my adopted son's name so my miracle biological baby could use it