‘That moment changed our whole entire life’: Chloe Fisher on fame, fertility and her marriage to mega DJ Fisher
With millions of followers between them, Chloe Fisher – the wife of Australian DJ Fisher – opens up about fertility, becoming famous, and the ‘moment that changed our life’.
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Podcaster Chloe Fisher opens up on how fame, family and her five-year fertility journey with her DJ husband Fisher (real name Paul Fisher) led to baby Bobbi.
Stellar; You first met your now husband Paul – before he became global superstar DJ Fisher – on holiday in Bali in 2012, aged just 20. Did you expect to meet the love of your life on holiday at such a young age?
Chloe Fisher: I absolutely did not. I was on a girls’ trip, just doing what girls do, running around. I spotted him at this bar and apparently I gave him the head nod and the rest is history. We’d randomly always be at the same restaurants or cafes. I’m like, is this guy stalking me? Can you please leave me alone? I’m on a girls’ trip … It was love at first sight. We have been inseparable from the start. He lived in America, I lived in Australia – I thought, this is never gonna work. Fast forward 12 or 13 years. We’ve seen the world together, we’ve gone through some insane ups and downs, and now we’ve found ourselves with our beautiful baby girl, Bobbi, and life is really good.
Listen to the full interview with Chloe Fisher on Something To Talk About:
Stellar: That must have been some head nod. Any tips for anyone thinking, I’ve got to know: what was Chloe’s secret?
Chloe Fisher: Oh – well, he was eating meatballs. I was drinking probably my hundredth vodka double-double, and I just had all the confidence in the world. I just looked at him, made eye contact, did the nod … I don’t know how great of a nod it was, but obviously it was pretty good.
Stellar: When you and Paul first met he was not Fisher, the successful DJ the world knows him as today. What has fame been like for both him and you to navigate?
Chloe Fisher: When we first met, he was a professional surfer. He lived in San Diego. I quit my job, followed the love of my life, landed in America with no job – and he actually got let go of his deal with the brand he was sponsored by. So we were like, awesome, we both live here, I can’t work because I don’t have a visa, you don’t have a job. We’ve got no money. What are we going to do? So I started a swimwear label called Aloé Swimwear.
I borrowed $5000 off Paul – probably his last $5000 – and $5000 off my grandparents, and I ran that business until 2019. I sold it just before I got married. In the background he was trying to establish himself on the DJ scene.
He got this slot to play at Coachella one year at a free stage called the Do Lab. You don’t get paid to play there. It was one of his first shows as Fisher. I remember he turned around to me, his manager, his agent, his PR rep – as he was mid-set – and said, “Guys, watch this!” We’re thinking, what on earth is he gonna do?
And he played [his 2018 single] ‘Losing It’ for the first time on stage. Still to this day, I have never seen a crowd erupt like it, ever. I actually have full-on goosebumps.
I can see your little hairs lifting.
That moment changed our whole entire life. The following weekend, he got upgraded [to a bigger tent] and it was absolutely rammed to the edges. It was one of those moments where I’m like, holy sh*t, our life is about to change.
At that point we were back and forth to Australia, we didn’t have a home because we didn’t have any money. We had nothing. So we lived with my parents. I’m one of four kids so it was my two sisters, brother, myself, Paul and our dog.
It was a full-on Brady Bunch scenario. A 27- or 28-year-old man, living with his girlfriend’s parents. The fame thing is funny because his fans are different. They see him online and think he’s this insanely crazy person, so quite often people come up and just scream in his face and we’re like, whoa. It’s a persona he portrays. He’s the most down-to-earth, kindest, softest [person].
The way Fisher’s fans approach him, I’d imagine, is very different to how people who listen to your podcast Darling, Shine! – which you co-host with Ellidy Pullin – might approach you. What is the average reaction when they come up to you?
The community that Ellidy and I have created is like a sisterhood, [but] it’s often quite tough conversations with my fans who come up and want to speak to me. Quite often I will be in nightclubs and it’s actually really challenging for me because when I was going through my [four] back-to-back miscarriages and fertility issues [Chloe underwent eight rounds of IVF over five years], people see me out in public and are like, “Oh my God, I’m going through this”, and they give you their whole story.
At times it can be extremely triggering. Before I had Bobbi and when I didn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel – I hate saying this, but trauma dumping … It’s hard because you want to support them [but] you are trying to protect yourself.
It’s challenging, but that’s why I do my podcast. I want to be able to speak to the masses and make these hard topics like miscarriage and grief and fertility easily accessible, almost like you are talking to your sister. It’s a double-edged sword.
Listen to the full interview with Chloe Fisher on Something To Talk About:
I want to talk to everyone and make them feel seen and heard, but it’s actually a really hard conversation to have in person with strangers.
I try my best to be so proud of how far I’ve come – and if anything, my story can give people hope because in those trenches you do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. I didn’t. If I’m giving anything back to people, hopefully I can just be a little bit of hope to keep going.
You’re part of The Iconic’s Mother’s Day 2025 campaign, to mark your first one as a mum. You’ve talked about the hard-won joy of that. How are you feeling in the lead-up?
Honestly, I’ll try not to cry. It might be the most incredible time for some women but it’s also one of the hardest times – if not the hardest time – for a lot.
For me coming into my first Mother’s Day with Bobbi on my hip and Paul by my side … I’ve never felt so much gratitude. I have dreamt of this moment forever. I’m so excited to share this cover and The Iconic shoot to look back on. How lucky are we?
Ellidy lost her partner, Olympic snowboarder Alex “Chumpy” Pullin, in a freak spearfishing accident in 2020. In the immediate aftermath, you helped arrange for Chumpy’s sperm to be retrieved from his body, which resulted in the conception and birth of your goddaughter Minnie 15 months later, in October 2021. Can you take us back to that moment?
I still can’t believe it happened. Ellidy was 28 when she lost the love of her life and became a widow. Ellidy and Chumpy had been trying for a baby a really long time. She was struggling to conceive as well, and their next step was IVF.
When he passed away, a friend of a friend knew of a scenario where the woman was able to retrieve the man’s sperm after he passed away. I think you have about 36 hours. I’ve now done eight rounds of IVF, but when this happened five years ago I had never called an IVF clinic in my life.
I cold called five IVF clinics, and they’re like no, no, no. As the day went on and the night went on, I couldn’t have been more sure of something: we needed to make it happen. Dr Davidson – he’s now retired – ended up doing the procedure. They got his sperm, they froze it straight away. We also had to get lawyers involved.
It’s funny, all of my friends call me Steve Jobs because I just go straight into job mode. I’ve got a lot of weaknesses but my strengths in life are getting sh*t done, to-do lists, spreadsheets. I can just do it.
Listen to the full interview with Chloe Fisher on Something To Talk About:
A lot of people were saying: you should wait, you’re so in your grief and your trauma, Ellidy, this isn’t the right time, you cannot have a baby right now. And she was like, “This is the right time. I’m not doing this to save me. I am doing this to bring back a part of him.” Then Minnie Alex Pullin was born. She turned three last October.
She’s the cutest thing. Paul and I are her godparents. I often say that I went through as much as I went through because maybe I wasn’t meant to have a baby back then; maybe I had to wait to have my baby so I could help Ellidy raise Minnie.
We bring Minnie and Ellidy around the world with us and we thrive off being this crazy modern family. Ellidy and Paul are best friends. Ellidy and I are best friends and business partners. We’ve got such a cute little unit going.
On the topic of Mother’s Day and being in The Iconic campaign, I just want to say – after becoming a mother – how much I’m inspired by Ellidy every single day for what she has done, and the life she has created for her little girl and herself: being a single mum, the only breadwinner. She’s the best mum. She juggles every single thing in her household.
She pays all the bills. I think she has three mortgages, she’s got three homes. She is such a weapon. She’s not alone, but she is alone.
She hasn’t got her partner to cheer her on, but it would be so hard to be a widow and have this beautiful little girl who is at this age where she’s asking for her dad, and asking about him. And I can see in Ellidy’s eyes – as much as she looks like this big, happy, vibrant person, which she is – she still struggles.
We talk about Chumpy so much with Minnie. She says, “My daddy’s in the sky”, and we wave to him.
From you and Paul sharing a room at your parents’ house with your siblings to travelling the world with a baby, a lot can change in a decade. Bobbi is quite portable now at 10 months old, but have you thought about what life might look like as she gets older?
It’s the million-dollar question. I can’t see Paul slowing down anytime soon. There’s the big DJs that are old these days and he’s like, “That’s gonna be me. I’m gonna be DJing in Ibiza when I’m 60.” So that’ll be interesting. We do six months in Ibiza every year.
He plays every Thursday from 3am till 5am – the happy hour. I don’t go to all those shows anymore. I’m probably going to have to do a bit of homeschooling here and there, sweet-talk a few schools on the Gold Coast when we get home: “Can we just whack her in there when we’re here?”
I don’t even know how that works. And people might blow up at me, going, “That’s not how it works!” We’re so fluid. We just want to go with the flow. We want the best for Bobbi and we will do the best for her at the time.
So who knows what school is going to be like in five years. Hopefully it’s not all portable. But you never know.
You can see Chloe and Bobbi in The Iconic’s Mother’s Day Campaign. Click here for more from The Iconic. See the full shoot and read the interview with Chloe Fisher in Stellar today – inside The Sunday Telegraph (NSW), Sunday Herald Sun (VIC), The Sunday Mail (QLD) and Sunday Mail (SA).
For more from Stellar and the podcast, Something To Talk About, click here.
Originally published as ‘That moment changed our whole entire life’: Chloe Fisher on fame, fertility and her marriage to mega DJ Fisher
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