‘Swinging has saved our marriage’, says actor Thomas Middleditch in candid new interview
“I don't know how much I can say, because I don’t want my wife to be mad at me,” says this Hollywood actor — before divulging a LOT more.
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Thomas Middleditch is swinging for the fences.
The 37-year-old actor, best known for HBO’s Silicon Valley, and most recently seen in Godzilla: King of the Monsters, spoke with Playboy for its “Pleasure Issue” at length about his swinger lifestyle and his marriage to costume designer Mollie Gates.
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“Only after I got married was I like, ‘Mollie, I’m sorry, but we have to get nontraditional here.’ To her credit, instead of saying ‘F**k you, I’m out,’ she was like, ‘Let’s figure this out,’” he recalled.
“To be honest, swinging has saved our marriage. We have different speeds, and we argue over it constantly, but it’s better than feeling unheard and alone and that you have to scurry in the shadows.”
And even though he got candid with the outlet, Middleditch prefaced his explanation with, “I don’t know how much I can say, because I don’t want my wife to be mad at me.
“It’s a perpetual state of management and communication, to the point where it’s like, ‘Alright, we’ve got to stop’ … I’m gas, and she’s brakes,” he added, before noting, “This is actually the premise for a comedy series we’re writing together.
“I love my wife like I’ve never loved anyone before,” Middleditch explains. “With two people who feel that way about each other, how do you go down that road? It’s tough. Bring a therapist along for the ride.”
When asked if he’s concerned about becoming a representation of swingers, he said, “I would be honoured to be the face of something. I don’t give a f**k, but my wife is more private, so I have to juggle that.”
But when it comes to fans wanting to sleep with him and how that affects Gates, Middleditch admitted it’s a slippery slope.
“That’s one of the trickier elements of it all, because Mollie doesn’t get that and yet she has to witness it. I’m like, ‘Come on, what about this chick who’s obviously really into me?’
“And Mollie will say, ‘Yeah, she’s into you. Where do I fit in?’ That question comes up.
“It’s a game of inches on a minefield to try to predict who’s going to feel safe,” he concludes. “My first concern is Mollie. Anything that happens has to be run by the queen.”
Middleditch married Gates in August 2015 after almost three years of dating.
Playboy’s ‘Pleasure Issue’ also included a bare-bottomed Kylie Jenner.
This article originally appeared on Page Six and was reproduced with permission
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