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Young Army captain overcame testicular cancer, now battles bowel cancer

A cancer diagnosis played a part in Hugo and Amber meeting and further health problems have made them stronger as a couple.

Hugo Toovey, 27, Australian Army Captain, Bardon

I had just graduated as a lieutenant in the Army in Canberra and was going to be posted to Brisbane but things didn’t go to plan. I was 22 when I was diagnosed with testicular cancer and instead of going to Queensland I was sent back to my home in Adelaide to start chemotherapy and intensive treatment.
About six months later, in October, 2014, I was finally feeling good and was out at a bar with some friends and that’s where I met Amber. We have mutual friends so I’d known who Amber was but we’d never met.

I don’t necessarily believe in fate but if I hadn’t been diagnosed with testicular cancer, I wouldn’t have moved back to Adelaide and met Amber.

Six months after we met, my appendix burst and I was rushed off to hospital. I was sick for a long time but Amber was beside me every step of the way. She has the most beautiful big heart and caring soul. At the end of 2017, I got promoted to Captain in the Army and was offered a posting to Brisbane, my health had improved so Amber and I moved to Queensland.

Hugo Toovey and his partner Amber Madgwick with dogs Ernie and Iggy. Picture: AAP/Richard Waugh
Hugo Toovey and his partner Amber Madgwick with dogs Ernie and Iggy. Picture: AAP/Richard Waugh

Things were going really well for the first time in ages. I’d had my five-year scan for testicular cancer and it was clear; I was the fittest and healthiest I had ever been and we both had amazing jobs. But two months later, it all came crashing down.

I’d booked in for what I thought was a routine colonoscopy but got called in to see my specialist right away. The doctor told me I had bowel cancer. I was only young, this wasn’t supposed to happen. I couldn’t have got through it without Amber, she was, and is, my rock. She told me we could get through anything together and we have. I went through some pretty dark times and depression definitely played a part in my life. I know it’s sounds cliché but I really don’t think I could have done it without Amber. While I was in hospital, she was a bright light for me and I looked forward to her coming in every day. It’s been eight months since I was discharged from hospital and I’m feeling pretty good but I’m not out of the woods yet. I’m passionate about raising awareness and prevention and am an ambassador for The Jodi Lee Foundation (JLF). In August, Amber and I will be taking part in their inaugural Queensland Trek which is a two-day 84km hike. Just like everything in my life, Amber will help me through it.

Amber Madgwick, 27, paediatric nurse, Bardon

As soon as I met Hugo at the bar nearly five years ago, we fell in love pretty quickly.

I had already heard about his journey through testicular cancer and knew how full on it had been for him. But being a nurse, I had an understanding of it all and didn’t think twice about it. We went on a few dates but we were serious about each other straight away.

In February last year, he asked if I’d be happy to move to Brisbane and I just wanted to be with Hugo so we packed up our lives in Adelaide and moved to Queensland.

Hugo Toovey and his partner Amber Madgwick with dogs Iggy and Ernie. Picture: AAP/Richard Waugh
Hugo Toovey and his partner Amber Madgwick with dogs Iggy and Ernie. Picture: AAP/Richard Waugh

We’d barely settled in when Hugo was diagnosed with bowel cancer. That was pretty hard on both of us but we’re stronger than ever because of it. I loved being able to be there every day at the hospital for him and being able to tell him it was going to be OK. During his darkest times, I had to step up for him and be there. I’d buy all the food and juices I knew he loved, I’d get him flowers and do little things to brighten his day. I’d be there at night and hold his hand until he fell asleep.
Hugo is my hero and I look up to him so much. If ever I’m down or worrying about things, I think of Hugo. He is a guy who has gone through two cancers and remained strong and positive through it all. We haven’t had the best of luck with his health but he’s turned it into something amazing and is helping the younger generation. What he’s doing with the Jodi Lee Foundation is wonderful and he also hosts a podcast, 25StayAlive, with another young veteran with brain cancer. One day down the track, I hope we’ll get married and have kids and whatever happens, I’ll be there right by his side.

To register and join the trek visit jodileefoundation.org.au.

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