'Bloody rude' common saying mums are sick of hearing

“I am now stuck until you make a decision and that's not fair." 

Sending invitations to friends for meet ups can often be challenging. 

The busy Christmas period rarely helps matters. 

Will they RSVP? Will they cancel at the last minute? 

One mum has shared her own personal gripe - people who say “I'll decide nearer the time.”  

Want to join the family? Sign up to our Kidspot newsletter for more stories like this

RELATED: An 'unbelievably selfish' act ruined my kid's Xmas school play

"Bloody rude" 

“This happened twice this week. I have invited people over for lunch after Christmas. They have told me that they would like to play it by ear,” she vented. 

“It is so rude.” 

Taking to a mum's forum, she writes how inconvenient it is, especially when time off from work over Christmas is so limited. 

“I am now stuck until you make a decision and I can’t make other plans with my (limited) annual leave,” she said. 

“If I’m not good enough for you to cash in a holiday day on, then fine - just decline the invitation- but it’s bloody rude to put me in a position where I’m now stuck holding the day for you.” 

She doesn’t think she should be left to wait.

“It’s just so ill-mannered!

" I absolutely see that people might be in a position whereby they are waiting to hear back from visiting family,” she added later.

But there’s a simple solution: “Either say so and chase up the missing bit of info or if that isn’t possible, then just decline the invitation."

Image: iStock

RELATED:  Your Christmas lunch could kill my kid

"Hoping for a better offer" 

The frustrated mum's comment section was divided.

Some said it was a habit they often found themselves doing. 

“I quite often say can we play it by ear, because I have two young children who get ill,” admitted a mother. 

Some suggested it’s not worth stressing about. 

“Piss takers can only piss take if you let them,” said someone quite bluntly. 

“ If waiting to know is inconvenient for you, by all means tell them politely," suggested another.

Others agreed it was rude. 

“No way I would be holding a day for people who might let you down at the last minute,” said one person. 

Another wrote: “It simply means they’re hoping for a better offer.”

The disgruntled host argued there’s a hidden message you’re sending. 

“The implication that their time is less important than yours,” she said. 

What are your thoughts? Is it rude to leave an invitation pending for a definite RSVP?

Originally published as 'Bloody rude' common saying mums are sick of hearing