Additionally, Dr Ray says that past experiences and negative core beliefs can also contribute to someone finding it hard to accept a compliment.
Another factor that can shape the way we accept, or don’t accept compliments, is cultural conditioning that discourages self-praise.
Many Asian countries such as China, for example, are socialised to view accepting compliments as disrespectful, while here in Australia, Dr Ray says that we are “notorious for downplaying our achievements and preferring self-deprecating language so as not to appear ‘up ourselves.’”
The thing about compliments though, is although they may feel awkward, if you can learn to accept them, they are like a magic soup for the soul, helping many people to feel recognised and energised.
“Think of accepting compliments as an essential ingredient for boosting self-worth and contributing to a positive self-image. It also strengthens the connection between you and the person giving the compliment,” says Dr Ray.