#7. Push back particularly if you’re a woman
“I think what's really interesting at the moment is a conversation that needs to be had around the role of women, particularly in this space, who are the primary income earners for their families but they’re also the caretakers for their children and they're also doing the mental load,” Kalpaxis says. “And how all of that feeds into the breakdown of relationships that we're seeing at the moment, too.”
Because as a natural consequence for taking on everything, women are coming to resent their lives. “I'm seeing so many women coming in and questioning what value their relationship brings to their life when they’re essentially doing all of the load on their own.”
The answer? “Very clear communication and the beauty of saying ‘no’ and pushing back,” explains Kalpaxis. “So many women think, ‘I'll just do it myself because it's quick’, or ‘I'm not going to feed into that because I don’t want to have the argument’, or ‘Dont worry, I’ll just add it to my list because I'll get it done’. But the problem with that is that we weaponise the incompetence of our partners and then they get to the stage where they're like, ‘Okay, that's great, that’s one less thing I need to do, she's got it under control’. And that is a huge resentment piece.”
So speak up ladies, and start sharing the load.