I told my kids they weren't getting my inheritance, but their step-mum is

"Your money, your choice, but this would be the reason to cut my dad off," one commenter wrote. 

"I have three kids. They are all adults with their own lives. My late wife (their mother) passed while they were in high school/college. Around five years later, I started to date my now-wife Kelly," a dad begins his post in the AITA forum about how he's giving his inheritance to his children's step-mum, not them.

"They have never liked Kelly, and they never gave her a chance. They were not happy I was dating and even more unhappy when I was getting married. I have been married to her for about seven years now. She really hasn’t done anything to make them dislike her so much," he continues. 

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"Both of our wills give basically everything to each other"

"I bought the house when I was married to my late wife; when she passed, I continued to pay the mortgage. Kelly moved in and sold her old place and basically paid off the rest of the home. We split the other bill now," he continues. 

"Anyway, both of our wills give basically everything to each other. I have some sentimental stuff that will go to the kids. The big stuff will go to her, and the same will be true for me if she passes.

"I was at dinner and the kids asked about my will. I informed them of the plan, and they were really upset. This started an argument that the childhood home goes to my wife. They think I am a huge jerk and believe it should go to them. One made a comment about kicking her out when they got home, which cemented my stance."

Despite their resentment, the dad says he can't see where they're coming from and thinks it's "pretty obvious" he would leave his wife the house that she helped pay for.

"They already got their mother's money, which was used to pay for their university years ago," he noted. 

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People were frank with the dad

When it comes to wills, most commenters agreed it was ultimately the dad's call, but he needs to be okay with the consequences of his decision. 

"It's your call, obviously. But, my father left everything to his second wife, who will not be leaving anything to me or my siblings, and we all feel like he didn't love us. So, take that as you will," one comment, with 15k likes, said.

"Your children, no matter what their age, will always be your flesh and blood and should be treated as such," another user added.

And a third commenter went hard at the dad and said: "OP, you don't owe your kids a cent. But they sure as hell don't OWE you their time or help as you get older. You've made what you think of them clear. You're giving their last link to their formerly intact family to some other woman. You're gross."

"Your money, your choice, but this would be the reason to cut my dad off. Their childhood house should be split between your wife and them. Your late wife had rights to it, too," a fourth responded.

Amongst the harsh commenters, one had some practical advice for the dad.

"What you are doing is taking you and your family's wealth, transferring it to your now wife, and then she will most likely only transfer that wealth to HER children when she dies. It's a tale as old as time.

"Instead, you should ensure that some (or the majority of) your assets go to your kids. It makes sense for your wife to keep the house, but you could also have things set up so that, at the very LEAST, the house is divided between your kids and hers upon her death," one person advised. 

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