Perth podcaster cries after woman rejects him

A Perth content creator has broken down in tears after he approached a woman and she declined his “weird” offer.

A video of a Perth podcast host in tears has erupted on social media after he broke down in response to a woman’s claims that she rejected his offer to meet up.

Jordan Tan is a model and content creator who regularly posts about the patriarchy and how she has “decentred men” in her life.

In a recent viral video, she explained that her feminist content had caught the attention of two men who subsequently reached out and invited her to “meet with them so they can try to convince you that it’s ‘not all men’.”

While she didn’t name the males, Ms Tan shared that despite politely declining their offer for a number of reasons, namely the fact she didn’t want she didn’t want to meet “two strangers” off the internet, she was shocked when they wanted to know why she turned them down.

“I don’t owe you a single thing,” she captioned the clip which has been viewed over a million times on TikTok.

Just 24 hours later, Jack Mcintosh – who describes himself as a digital creator in the mental health space – responded to Ms Tan’s claims, outing himself as one of the two men who had approached her.

While he broke down in tears on camera, stating he was “genuinely curious” as to why she had such “strong opinions towards men”, his video has fallen flat with some women around the world – even attracting attention from outspoken personality Abbie Chatfield.

Jordan Tan posted a video explaining why she turned down two men who requested to meet her. Picture: TikTok/@_jordantan_

‘Weird’ invitation

The internet storm first erupted when Ms Tan, a vocal advocate for gender inequality, shared the voice notes she received from two men who wanted to “catch up for a coffee” and discuss her perspectives.

While sitting in her car, she claimed she found the initial invitation “weird” but decided to ask what the “intention” was behind wanting to meet.

In a second voice note, the men allegedly said they wanted to hear her perspective and in turn give her theirs to “help each other learn something”.

“It was so vague, but being the kind person that I am, I said ‘unfortunately this doesn’t align with me and I don’t picture an outcome that I am fulfilled by, but if you are really interested in my perspective feel free to continue on following my social media journey”.

She also suggested a number of different books the men could read to help them gain a better understanding of the female perspective, including Boys Will Be Boys by Clementine Ford and Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates.

Jack Mcintosh later identified himself as one of the guys who had contacted the Perth feminist. Picture: TikTok

However, the then-unidentified men responded in another voice note, stating it was “a shame”, and asking for further information as to why she rejected their request.

“I wish I could say that I was surprised that two straight white men can’t understand why a woman would feel uncomfortable meeting up with two complete strangers, that are males, to talk about perspective,” she concluded.

“There was so much vague intention,” she said, and suggested they don’t know “how to be a better ally to women in the war that [they are] fighting every single day”.

“It seems that they just want to project their own deeply insecure beliefs on ‘not all men’ so that I don’t have to ‘live like this’ for the rest of my life.”

The video quickly amassed hundreds of thousands of “likes” and was flooded with comments.

The podcast host broke down in tears as he claimed he was ‘just a guy trying to be better’. Picture: Supplied

The video doesn’t appear to have had the affect, with some critiquing his tears. Picture: TikTok

Jack Mcintosh’s ‘apology’ video

Shortly after, Perth-based podcaster Mr Mcintosh posted his response to the claims, explaining he was “just a guy trying to be better”.

“I thought I was doing a pretty decent job,” he said.

“The reason I decided to message Jordan Tan was to have a conversation. To add context, I catch up with strangers all the time.

“It’s one of our passions, we love talking to strangers’, getting to know their story, understanding perspectives. Isn’t that what we are here to do?”

He went on to say that “no one is perfect” and that “learning from each other” is beneficial.

“I’m a genuinely curious person, I just didn’t see the harm in it,” he continued, tears stinging his eyes.

“I’ve never read a book so when you [Ms Tan] sent me these books, I don’t want to say it goes over my head, but when people tell me to read any book, whether I have a fear of reading books I don’t know, but I’ve never read a book before.

“I learn through conversation, other people, good or bad, that’s just... me.”

Mr Mcintosh then broke down, claiming he “likes to think I’ve changed in the past two years” with a friend appearing from off screen to comfort him as he sobbed into his hands.

Some believe Mr Mcintosh ‘completely missed the point’. Picture: TikTok/AbbieChatfield

His ‘tears’ critiqued

However, the video doesn’t appear to have had the affect, with some claiming Mr Mcintosh “completely missed the point”.

“My first thought was, ‘he is experiencing the consequences of his own actions’,” claimed one person on TikTok.

As another asked: “Why would they need physical access to her to ‘change her mind?’”

“He’s crying because a woman said no to him,” reasoned another.

Abbie Chatfield also weighed in on the discourse, which has sparked hundreds of videos, stating she was recording a podcast on the cultural Australian moment.

“Most men who try to argue with women about feminism suffer from a fear of reading books,” she scoffed.

However, Mr Mcintosh had a few supporters, who argued he needs to be cut some slack.

One said: “He apologised, he wants to be better, and he said sorry. Give him a break.”

News.com.au has contacted Ms Tan and Mr Mcintosh for further comment.

Originally published as Perth podcaster cries after woman rejects him