How Will and Jada Smith figured out their open marriage

Parallel to the media storm over the 2022 Oscars incident, Will Smith continues to be dogged by headlines over his “open” marriage.

When Will Smith took to the stage to accept the award for Best Actor for his role in King Richard, the attention wasn’t for his monumental achievement, but for his swipe at Chris Rock for joking about his wife.

His win for playing Richard Williams – the fiercely ambitious and eccentric dad of tennis champs Serena and Venus Williams – saw him follow in the footsteps of Sidney Poitier, Denzel Washington, Jamie Foxx and Forest Whitaker as the fifth black man to collect the accolade.

He has scooped every other big gong this awards season, including the SAG, BAFTA and NAACP image awards.

Parallel to the media storm over the 2022 Oscars incident, the 53-year-old star also continues to be dogged by headlines over his ‘open’ marriage to Jada Pinkett Smith, his wife of 25 years.

Earlier this month, when he missed the BAFTAs to stay in Los Angeles for the Critics Choice Awards, host Rebel Wilson quipped that his “best performance in the past year was being OK with all his wife’s boyfriends”.

But as one industry source told The Post: “Look at all the A-list couples on the red carpet – who knows what goes on with them. At least with Jada and Will, there is no pretending.”

“Their love is deeply rooted and it goes to the core and neither one is going anywhere,” said a Smith family source. “But just because that love is present does not mean that every need is necessarily met within the marriage. An outside experience is occasionally desired or, one would say, needed.”

One insider who knows the couple told The Post that it was too simplistic to say the couple has an open marriage, explaining they had gone through therapy and come out the other side.

“It’s not true to say they were never monogamous to begin with – this is the evolution of a marriage.”

“Will put his heart and soul into King Richard – it’s the movie that made him fall in love with acting all over again,” the insider said. “And for this success to be overshadowed by sensational headlines is just so sad.”

In 2020, the couple came clean about Jada’s “entanglement” with R & B singer August Alsina, who had previously claimed that he had an affair with the actress.

‘At least with Jada and Will, there is no pretending’

“I totally gave myself to that relationship for years of my life, and I truly and really, really deeply love and have a ton of love for her,” Alsina said on The Breakfast Club morning show.

A month later, Will and Jada took to her Facebook Watch show Red Table Talk to admit it.

“I was done with your ass,” Will told her.

“We broke up,” Jada said. “We were over.”

She went on to admit that she had been in “a relationship” with Alsina but that she didn’t consider it a “transgression” because she and Will were on a break at the time.

Then, in September 2021, Will told GQ that their relationship had evolved beyond monogamy and that the two had “given each other trust and freedom” within their union because marriage “can’t be a prison”.

He added: “Jada never believed in conventional marriage.”

Writer Wesley Lowery, who interviewed Will for GQ, said, “A viewer could have walked away thinking that Jada was the only one engaging in other sexual relationships, when that was not, Smith delicately explained to me, in fact the case.”

According to the family source, the couple, who have son Jaden, 23, and daughter Willow, 21, together, are in a better place now than they were during Jada’s “entanglement”.

“Things have been talked out between the two and, at the end of the day, they do care for each other. Even before the love, there is a solid friendship, a strong foundation,” said the family source. “They could easily get a divorce but for what? What would that prove? At least they are honest with each other, which is something that a lot of married couples cannot say. People cheat all day long, especially married couples. Every marriage works differently – you just happen to know their business because they are public figures.”

Another source told The Post that Will and Jada are “wildly sexual”.

In 2020, the couple came clean about Jada’s “entanglement” with R & B singer August Alsina, who had previously claimed that he had an affair with the actress.

The Smiths’ reps declined to comment for this story.

The family source told The Post that Will and Jada are refusing to let chatter about their “open” marriage distract from the actor’s Oscar pursuit.

At the SAG Awards last month, E! red carpet host Laverne Cox said to the couple, “Thank you for all the years of joy you’ve brought us. We can’t wait for more Red Table Talk and more ‘entanglements’.”

“No more of those,” Jada said more than once while Smith, beside her, forced a grin.

Nonetheless, it’s believed he has a solid shot at winning.

“Will has always been respected in Hollywood; people genuinely like him,” a Hollywood insider told The Post. “The Oscars are partially for acting and partially for popularity – that’s his turf.”

Smith has talked about the highs and lows of navigating Hollywood after growing up in an abusive home.

Will Smith slapped Chris Rock at the Oscars over comments about his wife.

In his 2021 memoir, Will, the actor wrote that he forged his movie star persona to hide “the coward” he felt like as a child, after watching his father, Willard Carroll Smith Sr, abuse his mother, Caroline.

“I was probably nine, and I watched my father beat up my mother,” Smith told the Today show in November. “And I was too scared to do anything. And just on my young mind, it became imprinted.

“It’s like, what kind of kid stands there and lets somebody hit their mother and they don’t do anything, you know? And that became really the core trauma of my childhood that my personality and my persona became to form around, to be the opposite of that, you know? I was never going to be scared again.”

This article originally appeared in the New York Post and was reproduced with permission

Originally published as How Will and Jada Smith figured out their open marriage